About singlemommeet
Signed Callum Veitch Editor · the other side of the table
Dating with a child in the picture — what changes, what does not, and which apps are worth the money. Written for single mothers and for the people dating them.
Who writes this
I came to this subject from the side that gets described rather than addressed. I was seeing a woman who was raising a child, and almost everything I could find was written either to warn men off or to tell her to expect less. What I actually needed was a plain account of how a week is put together when the calendar is set outside the relationship, and how much of what felt like rejection was just the calendar.
So the method here is narrow on purpose. Take the question as it is actually typed, answer it in the first two sentences, and describe the arrangements rather than grade the people inside them. Every figure has to name its publisher and year before it may appear, and the ones that could not be traced are listed as rejected instead of quietly dropped. The address at the foot of every page is a real inbox, and what arrives there gets pages rewritten — but it is never printed back as somebody else's story or quoted as a reader's voice, because a letter is not consent to be published.
The other half of this site is written to mothers, and I am not one. That is stated rather than papered over: those pages stand on what can be described and checked — the order of an introduction, what belongs on a public profile, what an app actually charges — and they stop at the point where the honest answer is that nobody outside your house gets a vote. Where the question is custody, support or anything clinical, the page names the kind of professional it belongs to and ends there.
What I arrived with
A short list of questions that felt too small to ask anyone: whether a cancelled Thursday meant anything, whether it was reasonable to want a plan more than a week out, whether the child was a subject I was allowed to have an opinion about. The threads I found collected endings, written by whoever had the worse night.
What changed the writing
Noticing that most of what unsettled people on both sides was structural rather than personal — a schedule agreed elsewhere, a handover that eats an evening, money talked about earlier here than anywhere else. Described accurately, those things stop needing a verdict attached. That is the whole editorial method.
What this site refuses to advise
Nothing that puts a child in front of a stranger: no photographs, no names, no early introductions, no locations. No number of months before dating again, because no such interval exists. No verdicts on whether a person is worth it, no readiness tests, and no legal or clinical answers dressed up as advice.
Callum Veitch is a pen name, and it belongs to this site’s editorial team rather than to a biography you could look up. The name exists so that a page has somebody answerable for it, and not to lend a page weight the text has not earned. There are no credentials behind it: nobody here is a therapist, a counsellor or a family lawyer, and no page is written as though it were. The portrait at the top of this page is not a photograph of a living person — it is an illustration generated with an AI tool, labelled as one wherever it appears, and it is there to give a byline a face rather than to tell you whose. What the name does not claim is the experience this site is read for: nobody writing here has raised a child alone, no page speaks in the first person as a single mother, and there are no invented children, ages or family stories anywhere on the site. No reader is quoted here either — letters arrive and change pages, but a letter is not consent to be published. Drafting is AI-assisted and human-edited, every figure is traced to a named publisher before it appears, and if a sentence here is wrong the fastest route to fixing it is hello@singlemommeet.com with the page address and the sentence you are disputing.
What can be checked is checked instead of being claimed. A verified figuremeans a number traced to the organisation that published it, read on that organisation’s own page, and quoted with the population it actually describes — the household figures here come from the U.S. Census Bureau, and you can open the page they came from without taking our word for anything. Everything that failed that test is listed as rejected on the sources page rather than quietly dropped. Readers in this niche have heard plenty of advice from people who claimed to have lived it, which is exactly why the byline here claims no experience it does not have.
The same rule stated as policy, with what it forbids: bylines and pen names. Every statistic is verified against a primary source before publication, and the ones we could not trace are listed as rejected on the sources page.
How we work
Our process, sourcing rules, and corrections policy are documented in the editorial policy. Every number we publish links to a primary source on the sources page.
Contact
Email us at hello@singlemommeet.com or use the contact page.